Personal ANNecdotes

March 28, 2019 Not another sentimental post Just plain reality hitting you in the face People come and go. It's a sad but, hard reality. It's one of those strong one-liners that produce a gut-wrenching impact whenever you hear it. Like a strong jab that hits your stomach and successfully paralyzes you once it gets to you. It's also one of those lines who people who believe in FOREVER don't want to listen to. There is no such thing as "forever." I don't want to burst your mental bubble. But, we have to stick to the truth. You may be lucky enough to be with that person for a long time. But, things in this physical realm will always remain FINITE. Before I continue, let me make things clear here. I am not a VERBAL SADIST. I did not make this anecdote to kill romance, passion, positivity or hope. In fact, my previous experience 10 years ago after losing a dear friend opened my eyes to the cruel reality of life. Our time on this Earth is finite. And even if we are not going to pass yet from the physical to the spiritual realm, our moments with the people around us will have their own beginnings, as well as endings. But, what I am certain of is that all those people you meet, mingle or talk with have a certain purpose for coming into your life. They don't necessarily have to be in your inner, closest circle. Sometimes, those individuals whom you seldomly interact or associate with can leave a significant and indelible mark in your life. They may be there to serve as company, become your mentor, guide you in those darkest moments or protect you at your worst. There will be others who will challenge you, ridicule you, discourage you or betray you and you'll be left asking why things had to happen that way. But, behind every challenge is strengthening of the soul. Behind every ridicule is the desire to prove your worth and better yourself more than what others had expected. Behind every discouragement is the fire to keep your fervor burning to keep on going and fighting for your ideals and dreams. Behind every betrayal is hope of finding a new reason to believe and trust without wavering and doubt. So even if your personal relationships turn out to be worse, it will become necessary molding of your heart and soul. Every personal interaction comes with an inevitable impact. The law of interaction states that, "for every corresponding action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." I don't mean to sound like another Physics instructor. Yet, we all reciprocate how others treat us in one way or another. Sometimes, the need to reciprocate draws us closer. Sometimes, it moves us further from each other. But, when people continue to talk, move and act together, an inevitable bond called "friendship," "love" and "trust" takes into place. This is where the complication comes in. Knowing all relationships are finite sets the caution mode on for those who have learned the hard way. There will always be warning bells on standby, ready for ringing should the ending approach at its vicinity. Should this stop you from making closer bonds and interacting with other people? Should this stop you from opening your heart and becoming vulnerable because you are afraid to get hurt and become a victim again? The answer would definitely be "NO." Because the true essence of every relationship is not the yesterday but, the NOW. Cherish these moments now. Don't be afraid to jump into the current and fall helplessly into that dive. You will never know for how long will that NOW last. God knows but, tomorrow could be your last... You may be lucky to spend time together for at least a month, several months, a year or several years from now. But, when it's time for the other to go, the inevitable happens and the moments will just dwindle like ashes blown by the wind. Even if we also know how hard it is to lose a beloved one, nothing could ever prepare you for the emotional impact. It is a known fact that we are all HUMAN. And one clear distinction which classified as under this type is the ability to feel - - not just the pain, but the happiness, loveliness and joy of loving someone. So even if loving entails to hurting when you lose that special someone, I will not stop loving that person because the pain is all worth it. Tears will come and go as they please. But, it will also wash away the sorrow that is crippling me. What really matters is not the yesterday but, the TODAY. Because today is also the foundation of the many tomorrows with that special someone. We may not have a forever, but there will always be a "lifetime." Enough to hug, kiss, and make love to that one person whom you see yourself growing old with for the rest of your life. To end this musing, let me just quote the famous line said by Keanu Reeves in the movie "The City of Angels." I’d rather have one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand. Than an eternity without it. One.